When you're at the end of a controlling relationship, keep your true friends and family close. It doesn't matter if you only have two friends ,what matters is that you know you can count on them. They'll be there for you, and you'll be there for them.
I found out the hard way. The day I left, some “friends” disappeared immediately. They didn’t ask questions, didn’t check in. Instead, they took sides , his side. They became what I later learned are called “flying monkeys”: people who do the abuser’s dirty work, knowingly or not. They spied, spread rumours, inserted themselves into our private life. It hurts more than I can explain , not just the betrayal, but the denial. pretending. The gas lighting from people who claimed to care.
But in all of that pain, I saw something clearly: the power of true friendship.
I only had two people who stayed. They didn’t take sides. They didn’t ask for explanations or gossip. They showed up. For me. For my boys. And that was everything. You don’t need a circle of twenty , sometimes two people standing firmly in your corner are enough to remind you who you are and that you’re not alone.
Now I understand that abuse is not just about bruises or screaming matches. It’s about control, manipulation, and power , and it often continues even after you walk away. But I’ve also learned that reclaiming your peace, protecting your truth, and holding tight to the people who see you, that’s power too.
But I’ve learned. I’ve seen who’s real and who’s not. And I’ve realised that having one or two people who stand by you is worth more than a dozen who disappear the moment things get hard.
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